Couple Therapy Berlin

 

A central desire of us humans is to love and to be loved, to have someone you love, who loves you, who is exciting, who supports and supports you. Someone is looking in the same direction.

That's why we look for the right counterpart.

We find this person and experience the one, in the wonderful feeling of falling in love and desire.

We have the feeling of accepting and arriving.

However, after some time, many relationships are unhappy, and we wonder, what makes a good relationship? The question then arises for many, do we need a couples therapy?

 

Where has the love remained in our relationship?

 

The relationship as a couple suffers from the stresses of everyday life. Less and less often there is a happy feeling of a deep closeness to each other. There are often conflicts with everyday topics. Conversations usually end in dispute and incomprehension.

Important topics remain unspoken.

The love of the partner is in danger - the love relationship is no longer perceived as a safe haven, which he should be in times of constant change and challenges. Strife, increasing distance characterize the relationship.

Many relationships are lived - no longer alive, no longer loved!

Love is more focused on the children than on the partner - physical closeness and sexuality are rare.

Feelings of anger, anger, resignation and hopelessness dominate.

Incomprehension and mutual reproaches and injuries accompany the couple relationship.

 

When couples relationships get into trouble, the demolition of emotional attachment is experienced! Uncertainty, fear, injuries arise. Partners begin to cling, challenge, criticize and manipulate to reach out to others. Alternatively, they retreat to protect themselves from wounding, and perhaps they are intent on separation.

 

What is Emotional Focused Couple Therapy?

 

Emotional Focused Couple Therapy (EFT) is a way to find and understand one's attachment violations. This makes it easier to find out why one reacts so strongly to certain behaviors, words of the partner or partner.

In couples therapy, one can re-learn to develop a deeper understanding of each other, which is the basis for creating a sense of connectedness and familiarity. This forms a good foundation for couples not losing sight of each other in the future. The newfound in couples therapy now helps to solve everyday issues and problems easier constructive.

Emotional Focused Couple Therapy strengthens the attachment relationship and promotes the experience of closeness and security. Negative interaction patterns of accusation and blame, justification and withdrawal are disrupted and dissolved. Encounters are made possible in which even difficult feelings and deep needs can be shared.

Emotional-focused couples therapy makes deeper feelings visible and tangible to themselves and their partners, allowing them to be seen and recognized more and more. As soon as the mutual recognition of what both of them do (closeness, support, recognition) succeeds, love can flow again. If, instead of uncertainty, security and trust now find their place and the vulnerability of greater serenity and relaxation softens, contentious issues such as finances, everyday organization, child rearing, social contacts, ventures, possible affairs, etc. can all be negotiated more objectively and solution-oriented.

I offer this emotion-focused couple therapy for couples in my practice in Berlin.

 

The Emotional Focused Couple Therapy is a scientifically sound method of dealing with the negative emotional vicious cycle - e.g. from mutual reproaches - to recognize one another and to change one another. Behind such negative cycles often hide deep feelings and unmet needs. Marriage counseling helps partners to perceive, understand and communicate with each other.

 

Emotional Focused Couple Therapy is one of the best researched and most effective couples therapy methods available today. This is not about learning communication rules or finding quick solutions. Instead, you work with the underlying feelings. If we discover these hidden feelings with the partner, then the communication behavior changes by itself and solutions for topics which lead to conflicts again and again can be found more easily, without becoming entangled in the old negative patterns. Long-term couples therapy studies have shown that about 90% of couples show significant improvements and 75% of couples "recover" from their relationship stress. These are exceptionally high success rates compared to other couples therapy forms. Follow-up shows that the couples who have had emotion-focused couples therapy have experienced a lasting change at the relationship level. This is due to the emotional depth experienced in couples therapy sessions. The ability to open up to the partner and communicate his needs and fears has been strengthened.

 

Emotional Focused Couple Therapy is suitable for all couples who feel addressed by this approach, whether heterosexual or homosexual.