Couple Therapy Berlin
Ist es denn nicht möglich,
sich täglich nahe zu sein,
ohne alltäglich zu werden –
voneinander entfernt zu sein,
ohne sich zu verlieren ...?
sich maßlos zu lieben,
ohne sich lieblos zu maßregeln –
einander gewähren zu lassen,
ohne die Gewähr zu verlieren ...?
einander sicher zu sein,
ohne sich abhängig zu machen –
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ohne sich unsicher zu werden ...?
Couple Therapy Berlin
A central desire of us humans is to love and to be loved, to have someone you love, who loves you, who is exciting, who supports and supports you. Someone is looking in the same direction.
That's why we look for the right counterpart.
We find this person and experience the one, in the wonderful feeling of falling in love and desire.
We have the feeling of accepting and arriving.
However, after some time, many relationships are unhappy, and we wonder, what makes a good relationship? The question then arises for many, do we need a couples therapy?
Where has the love remained in our relationship?
The relationship as a couple suffers from the stresses of everyday life. Less and less often there is a happy feeling of a deep closeness to each other. There are often conflicts with everyday topics. Conversations usually end in dispute and incomprehension.
Important topics remain unspoken.
The love of the partner is in danger - the love relationship is no longer perceived as a safe haven, which he should be in times of constant change and challenges. Strife, increasing distance characterize the relationship.
Many relationships are lived - no longer alive, no longer loved!
Love is more focused on the children than on the partner - physical closeness and sexuality are rare.
Feelings of anger, anger, resignation and hopelessness dominate.
Incomprehension and mutual reproaches and injuries accompany the couple relationship.
When couples relationships get into trouble, the demolition of emotional attachment is experienced! Uncertainty, fear, injuries arise. Partners begin to cling, challenge, criticize and manipulate to reach out to others. Alternatively, they retreat to protect themselves from wounding, and perhaps they are intent on separation.
What is Emotional Focused Couple Therapy?
Emotional Focused Couple Therapy (EFT) is a way to find and understand one's attachment violations. This makes it easier to find out why one reacts so strongly to certain behaviors, words of the partner or partner.
In couples therapy, one can re-learn to develop a deeper understanding of each other, which is the basis for creating a sense of connectedness and familiarity. This forms a good foundation for couples not losing sight of each other in the future. The newfound in couples therapy now helps to solve everyday issues and problems easier constructive.
Emotional Focused Couple Therapy strengthens the attachment relationship and promotes the experience of closeness and security. Negative interaction patterns of accusation and blame, justification and withdrawal are disrupted and dissolved. Encounters are made possible in which even difficult feelings and deep needs can be shared.
Emotional-focused couples therapy makes deeper feelings visible and tangible to themselves and their partners, allowing them to be seen and recognized more and more. As soon as the mutual recognition of what both of them do (closeness, support, recognition) succeeds, love can flow again. If, instead of uncertainty, security and trust now find their place and the vulnerability of greater serenity and relaxation softens, contentious issues such as finances, everyday organization, child rearing, social contacts, ventures, possible affairs, etc. can all be negotiated more objectively and solution-oriented.
I offer this emotion-focused couple therapy for couples in my practice in Berlin.
The Emotional Focused Couple Therapy is a scientifically sound method of dealing with the negative emotional vicious cycle - e.g. from mutual reproaches - to recognize one another and to change one another. Behind such negative cycles often hide deep feelings and unmet needs. Marriage counseling helps partners to perceive, understand and communicate with each other.
Emotional Focused Couple Therapy is one of the best researched and most effective couples therapy methods available today. This is not about learning communication rules or finding quick solutions. Instead, you work with the underlying feelings. If we discover these hidden feelings with the partner, then the communication behavior changes by itself and solutions for topics which lead to conflicts again and again can be found more easily, without becoming entangled in the old negative patterns. Long-term couples therapy studies have shown that about 90% of couples show significant improvements and 75% of couples "recover" from their relationship stress. These are exceptionally high success rates compared to other couples therapy forms. Follow-up shows that the couples who have had emotion-focused couples therapy have experienced a lasting change at the relationship level. This is due to the emotional depth experienced in couples therapy sessions. The ability to open up to the partner and communicate his needs and fears has been strengthened.
Emotional Focused Couple Therapy is suitable for all couples who feel addressed by this approach, whether heterosexual or homosexual.
Relationship problems with child
Many young parents decide the decision for a couples therapy or couple counseling. A child is the culmination of their relationship and connection for many relationships. The happiness of the relationship seems to be getting bigger. However, difficulties in everyday life and the partnership quickly creep in after great delight. Many changes are coming to expectant parents in our society today.
Why has our relationship become so difficult through our child?
Many factors can negatively affect your relationship with a child.
To problems, it can be z. For example, if one of the partners did not want a child and the couple did not prepare for the child together with others, or if this led to a breach of trust in the relationship.
However, everyday life is changing a lot because of a baby. Now it's no longer the two partners that are the focus, but the child. One has less togetherness, speaks less and hardly sleeps together. However, the fight is now increasingly.
In couples therapy, many couples repeatedly report that they are second only to the partner. They feel less important and less loved.
Studies show that about 70% of couples who opted for separation counseling split up due to difficulties with a child.
Another difficulty is that many couples do not want to argue in front of children. They try to accept things and swallow problems. As a result, the couples may only become more alienated, or there will be a big explosion, and the fight will destroy the relationship.
Couples are openly discussing these issues, but working on the feelings of being alone and no longer important to others.
Possible problems for relationships with children:
One of the two partners feels neglected and less loved
The roles and work distribution do not feel equal
Lack of appreciation in the relationship
Old role models (wife stays home with child and household, husband works) sneak back into the relationship
The demands on yourself and the partner are too great
Conversations in the relationship are becoming less and less
They have less sex
Tenderness and emotional closeness are less and less
The private life (friends) is left behind
You do not do anything more as a couple alone
Both thought that the relationship with the baby would be more intense
One of the partners was not ready for a child yet